My first women’s circle of the year happened this week and only 40% of
the members showed up. This in itself is not a problem as we have an agreement
that attendance should not feel like an obligation. The tricky part is that the
women who do show up are doing the work and those absent, miss out on the
connection, vulnerability, self-accountability and personal empowerment.
I have noticed in my nearly 20 years of volunteering for various schools and organisations that criticism and complaints come from the people sitting on the sidelines not the ones showing up and being intimately involved in the activities undertaken to achieve a mission.
This speaks perfectly to Brene Brown’s philosophy of “If you’re not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.”
Her philosophy was born out of Theodore’s Roosevelt’s quote:- “It is not the
critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or
where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the
man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and
blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again,
because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually
strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who
spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph
of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while
We are all invited to step into the arena and show up. Show up for ourselves and for those we care for.
It is only when we show up that we find success, community, love or healing. And this showing up is despite feeling uncomfortable, despite being bothered by our monkey mind around perceived expectations or fear of disappointment.
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Here’s hoping that this year is full of Ease, Evolution and Elevation and I am aware that progress is the result of conscious thought, decision, and action so I look forward to showing up with you.
“The tools we are taught on the Woman Within Weekend are continuously used to help us stay connected, supported and accountable, and provide us with strength, safety, and empowerment,” I continue to be amazed at the power of this work and this community.